How to Know if an Introvert is in Love With You

It was considered perverse or pathological to avoid crowds or to crave time alone. Fortunately, introversion is far more accepted these days. People self-identify as introverts in their online dating profiles.

I’m an ambivert (in the middle of introvert and extrovert) and I was in a long distance relationship with an introvert. We met in Colorado and dated for a short time before he moved. After he moved, we stayed together, hoping to make it work until he moves back in years.

But as introverts, we sometimes feel misunderstood. Information runs through a pathway that is associated with long term memory and planning. As they process information, introverts are carefully attending to their internal thoughts and feelings at the same time. According to studies by psychologist Hans Eysenck, introverts require less stimulation from the world in order to be awake and alert than extroverts do.

This means introverts are more easily over-stimulated. This is why introverts feel content and energized when reading a book, thinking deeply, or diving into their rich inner world of ideas. In other words, introverts feel less excitement from surprise or risk. Introverts process everything in their surroundings and pay attention to all the sensory details in the environment, not just the people.

As introverts are thinking, they reach back into long-term memory to locate information. An introvert will often compare old and new experiences when making a decision, which slows the processing down but leads to carefully thought-out decisions. This means that introverts have an active dialogue with themselves and usually walk around with many thoughts in their minds. You must sign in or sign up to comment.