Older Women Dating Younger Men: Doomed from the Start or Happily Ever After in Cougarville?

Comment Cully Anderson January 12, , 5: I a voracious txter.. I recently met I guy the old fashioned way, some flirting, smiling..

But when you’re with someone who’s on the same page as you, who wants the same thing you do with you and is willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen, they don’t just make time for you, they actually want to be with you and spend time with you and talk to you and make plans with you and be with you.

Originally scheduled as a lunchtime meet, it lasted all day and into the night. She never heard from him again. Another friend met a guy who she was half-heartedly interested in. He kept trying to pick up the pace of things and after some initial reluctance she let herself get swept up in it and started to trust him and her feelings increased.

It was the last time she saw him. I have countless emails from readers telling me stories of guys and women who moved the initial dating period along at high speed. They either disappear when they start to feel panicky about the fact that you will want, need, and expect in line with the great show they have been putting on. You will use a number of the things that they fast-forward you with as basis to trust them with — Trust Points. You should date with a reasonable level of trust as a basis and your interactions serve as a series of checks and balances.

Positive things increase your trust, dodgy stuff should have you rolling back and assessing the risk. If you love and trust blindly and get sucked into being moved along at high speed, you will be blind in the relationship when you actually have a responsibility to yourself to have your eyes open. Fast-Forwarding creates a pseudo connection. Slowing down and actually getting to know each other at a healthier pace creates a real connection. In fact, let me say it real straight for you — this is not a fairy tale.