I’m Not Looking For A Hookup.

The good news is that we can learn from these mistakes! And even though breakups are never easy, they can be more or less painful depending on how we handle them. We talked to dating experts and collegiettes about some common post-breakup mistakes to help you avoid them in the future.

Tell your boyfriend that you miss the friendship aspect of your relationship—the talking, doing things together (besides hooking up!), and enjoying each other’s company.

A few minutes after Any attempt at cuddling is a deal breaker. Cuddling post-sex should be reserved only for someone you actually have a commitment with, not for hookups. Most people just want to enjoy the last strains of ecstasy in silence; some would even turn their backs on you afterwards. If you really want to at least talk to this person for a good few minutes, then steer the conversation away from personal stuff.

Just get it over with. Smoke, browse through Facebook, check Twitter, or do other things to pass the time, then get up, take a shower, and leave. Give them a peck on the cheek before you disappear, though.