Is He Emotionally Unavailable? How To Spot Emotionally Unavailable Men

Please also note that posts have been gender neutral since autumn More often than not, the primary issue that women focus on is the emotional unavailability but there are always physical and spiritual issues to prop it up. Mr Unavailable or as some refer to him EUM — emotionally unavailable man — or EU with his inability to tap into his emotions, his lack of self-awareness and his mismatched actions and words, has millions of women investing their time and energy into fruitless liaisons with him.

Mr Unavailable is very much about the chase. He pursues hard, showers you with attention and lays it on thick with a trowel in order to reel you in, but from the moment that you are hooked and things get comfortable, he backs off.

“I am married to a man with Aspergers. I must say this has been the biggest challenge in my entire life. Although I do love my husband dearly, I am finding myself slipping into feelings of resentment quite often.

If you are not one of them, and it normally takes you longer to find somebody new — maybe a year, or even a few years — you might find it very puzzling, even frustrating. What is their secret? Their need to be with someone is stronger than desire to have a meaningful relationship. Because of that they hardly break up before they meet someone new, so they appear like they find partners easily: If you have a short checklist of desired partner qualities, obviously there is more choice of possible matches.

This also makes you more likely to fall in love — it is easier to impress you. Usually with a member of a popular teen band. Or a couple of them. In theory, the more things we add to the list — the trickier it becomes to find people who match them.