What Do You Do When You Don’t Know What To Do?

I have gotten more phone numbers and email addresses in the past few days than I have in the past year! Today I am going to expose to you one well-kept secret in attracting and seducing women that nobody has probably ever told you. But before that, I have got a few questions for you, and I want you to answer each of them as honestly as you can.

First you gotta think of something cool to say to walk up and approach her, and you risk getting rejected even IF you manage to work up the balls to do it.(Let’s face it – most of the time it’s more comfortable not to bother and just avoid the risk of getting shot down) IF you’re not shot down, then you have to try to get her interested in you with some witty conversation and banter.

Unfortunately, in the real world, it is much harder to work out whether a relationship has a future or not. So we follow the standard advice: However, there comes a point when you need to decide if this relationship is serious or wasting your time. As a marital therapist who has spent 20 years sorting out love dilemmas, I’ve watched hundreds of couples trying to decide whether their relationship is worth pursuing further.

They all approach the problem like a judge trying to weigh up the pros and cons. But how do you balance present issues and past experience against an unknowable future? Should ‘but I love him’ trump infuriating behaviour? No wonder these people find themselves swinging first one way and then the other. But it is possible, normally about six months in, to assess the prospects for your relationship and come to a realistic conclusion.